By: Sandra Dickson-Oyetayo
Stepping into the dreaded 30s, without a man to call your own could be emotionally draining. Regardless of the peak of their achievements, any woman who crosses this milestone without a husband or a child is perceived ‘failure’ in Nigeria. Loneliness may make desperation and depression set in thus, a woman may start to throw herself at any man that comes along.
The tricks listed below can turn your single status around and earn you your most coveted title, ‘Mrs.’ in a short time possible. Study these tricks closely and inculcate them in your habits. Do not make it obvious, then see your man crashing on his knee to pop the big question in days!
Be Requisite: Once a man knows you are just an option, commitment may be far off from his agenda. Rather, create the feeling that you are indispensable, that losing you would spell doom for him. To stir this feeling, ensure you become the complete package. His cleaner, sounding board, escort, best friend, football teammate, weekend tennis partner, even be the best at making his favorite plate of Jolof rice. When you kill him with such kindness, he won’t be able to live without you, then he will be forced to propose within a short time.
Seal Lips on the Marriage Talk: Have you ever noticed that the more you talk about getting married to him, the more he pulls away? The reason is, the thought of getting hooked with one woman scares the living day out of men! Please, hush with the marriage talks. He is fully aware that all you want is to settle down; one, age is no longer on your side and two, you talk about it all the time. He might have even caught you several times following wedding planners and saving some gorgeous wedding dresses on Instagram. Even though he loves you deeply, he might be growing cold feet already. Men are scared of commitments and the earlier you know this, the better for you. Play it cool. You love him but act like you don’t care, pretend you don’t need him!
Be somewhat elusive: After getting him to realize that his world revolves around you, begin to pull back gradually. Feign a family function or plan movie dates with your girlfriends. You can even go on an exotic getaway to a resort or destination of your choice without him. The idea is to enable getaway and give him some lone time. Whatever you must do, do it to give him some breather. He needs this to be with his friends and let in some air, he will begin to miss you and want to move closer to you.
Buy Yourself An Expensive Gift: This could be a house in a choice neighborhood or a brand new car or the latest model of the mobile phone that just launched. In as much as men love a woman to be submissive and consult them before pulling a big move, a bit of ‘strong-head’, independence does the trick. Once he knows you can afford some luxuries of life without his input, you would not appear desperate or clingy. Men love such women for keeps. However, remember not to go broke in trying to trick him to propose to you.
Generate some shock effects: If you have done all listed above and you still don’t see your relationship headed in the right direction, initiate a big change to shake things up a bit. While being his ‘everything may do some big magic, sometimes things don’t work out the way we planned it. Having you at his beck and call may work for some time but he’ll grow tired of it. Begin to hatch plans to take the focus off of him, and place that value back on yourself. If you create some activities a few times a week to generate happiness, you will become irresistible to him again, and he will rather die than not make you his wife in 21 days